To All of the Spiritually Abused: Please Grow Up and Stop Whining
Since I don’t have a test tomorrow, and the test on Wednesday does not look exceedingly difficult, I will take some time to do something I miss very much; writing. When I decided to come out of retirement to do nursing, I wanted to work at something that would teach me more about life. Nursing, whether STNA, MAC, LPN, or RN, does that. This is important to me because half of my life was wasted on church which teaches you very little about life. Actually, nothing about life.
So, while studying Parkinson’s disease medications this morning, I stumbled upon a blog authored by someone who has Parkinson’s as an encouragement and information source for other victims of the disease. I read what was being shared in the comment sections of each article, and it occurred to me in a way that was as subtle as someone throwing a brick through a picture window…
…these are true victims.
In contrast, nothing is more annoying than any given spiritual abuse blog, also known as “discernment blogs,” which while reading, is like listening to 100 alley cats in heat screaming against a full moon at night. I have an exercise for you: go to Wartburg Watch .com and read the articles and comments there, and then run over to the aforementioned blog and do the same; if you have ever taken the WW seriously up to that point, take one gram of Shame (generic: pathetic) and call me in the morning.
I am a “spiritual abuse survivor.” And we are all the same. We are NOT victims. Some awful disease did not come to visit us uninvited. We are all guilty of the same things. We were not paying attention. We were not thinking for ourselves. While deeming ourselves more aware than the elderly who are often an easy target for scammers, our degree of un-self-awareness could not even hold a candle for Dementia.
And we are also guilty of the biggest thing at one time or another; thinking we could/can save the church. I wrote “The Truth About New Calvinism” in my personal effort towards that fool’s errand. The church cannot be saved. And by the way, there aren’t any victims among those that proudly proclaim they are totally depraved sinners saved by grace. There is no justice in that theology past going to hell. All justice stops at the door of hell in that reality.
So, please stop whining, grow up, own the fact that you are/were a lazy thinker, and stop wasting your life.
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“So, while studying Parkinson’s disease medications this morning, I stumbled upon a blog authored by someone who has Parkinson’s as an encouragement and information source for other victims of the disease. I read what was being shared in the comment sections of each article, and it occurred to me in a way that was as subtle as someone throwing a brick through a picture window…
…these are true victims.”
Thank you! Now back to reading.
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“We are all guilty of the same things. We were not paying attention. We were not thinking for ourselves. While deeming ourselves more aware than the elderly who are often an easy target for scammers, our degree of un-self-awareness could not even hold a candle for Dementia.”
Exactly. I still think it is perfectly ok to out the crap going on in church’s but their solutions are usually wanting the bad guys to change! I saw the same on SGM survivors. Seriously! They are still adult children longing for a leader. My favorite is them wanting the charlatan to apologize. Why? Oh, I forgot. Wade teaches that an apology is repentance and we have to accept it and wipe the slate clean. IOW, Be abuse enablers who are “nice”.
Where is the encouragement and strategies to become strong and independent thinkers after such an ordeal?
There comes a time where it becomes more about the people calling it out than any victims. They become sort of minor celebs in their #metoo, #churchtoo cultural victimology circles full of virtue signaling and moral superiority. They are constantly looking for “leaders” to trust instead of being their own leader.
But we have to admit how stupid we were! There can be no moving on until we stop blaming the charlatans (who will be charlatans!) and take a good look at ourselves and why we were so easily led in the first place. That is maturing. And we will recognize charlatans much faster and exit quickly.
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Couldn’t have said it better.
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“their solutions are usually wanting the bad guys to change!”
The only “solutions” any of these “survivor” blogs offer is “if we only get the right guy in there…” or “if we only had the right form of polity everything would be better”. So their solution is nothing more than the same tyranny they had before. It’s like the political ads we see during election time. The candidates might as well just say, “Vote for me because my tyranny is better than his tyranny.”
All that is to say that their so-called “solutions” are not solutions at all. Which is why I say that 99% of the people who comment on these blogs are not interested in solutions, they would much rather find some comfort in wallowing in each other’s misery and whine about the symptoms. And this is exactly why PPT doesn’t have that great of a following because we are solutions-oriented. And being solutions-oriented means you have to actually DO something!
…which most people don’t want to do either.
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Another…couldn’t have said that better.
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“And this is exactly why PPT doesn’t have that great of a following because we are solutions-oriented. And being solutions-oriented means you have to actually DO something!”
What kills me is I understood this philosophy in business. I wanted independent go getters in a win/win situation for both of us. I understood perfectly that such people always move-on. That’s to be expected. I would tell my clients, ‘it’s better to have competent independent people for a short time than dependent people for a long time’. Somehow this philosophy didn’t map to church for me —but it should have. Church is stifling, totalitarian and they fear competent independent thinking pew sitters.
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Greeting committees at churches have the distinct responsibility of identifying any incoming independent thinkers who are deemed a threat. Clearcreek Chapel in Springboro, Ohio is a prime example. If you show interest in the fellowship of the church, and you are identified as a possible independent thinker, by and by, a core member will offer to take you out to breakfast or dinner every week as a ministry of the “fellowship committee.” The money comes out of the committee fund and is a way to keep tabs on the independent thinker.
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Just like getting scammed in business, there is a brief period of feeling like a victim, but then you either take them to court, leave a bad review, or move on. But as the church sells salvation, some people can’t move on and just continue to while and play the part of the perpetual victim. Pretty messed up situation.
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